People don t find me pretty. They don’t need to be justified.

People don t find me pretty Being physically attractive often leads to positive perceptions and assumptions about your character. Being pretty just means you're pretty. I am just aware of my physical traits and qualities. To cuddle and lay in bed. The few people who post pics usually know they're actually average or above, not all but most. There are people out there who told Gisele Bündchen, Tyra Banks, Gigi Hadid and more stunners that they'd never make it Physical attraction is pretty absolute—you either are, or you aren’t, physically attracted to someone (I’m not saying it’s not a spectrum with a middle ground and a certain degree of mutability but there’s people who will virtually always remain on either side for you in terms of physical attraction alone). Idk. Guys I'm not interested in think I'm interested because I'm initially overly friendly. Treat everyone like a friend. I have also noticed this and since then I've been wondering about it as well. The rare times that I do get meaningful conversations is from talking to them on a deep level about our thoughts and You don't have to be obsessed with hollywood and gossip magazines to have a desire to look pretty. I've never been rejected by a guy or girl, they always come up to me in public places and ask me out so why do I feel so insecure? I can’t even make eye contact with people because I I've never been with someone who was physically "my type". He said he did at the begining. one of the girls that I usually prepped for exams with was very pretty, dark hair and like 5'9". Don't wait for him to realize himself. But he will sometimes mention how he finds some other girls physically attractive. or even a non attractive guy. Open It’s not like I’m intimidating,because that’s actually that total opposite. She’s just not my type, but I still think she’s massively overrated beauty wise. I don't think a guy would ever find me sexually attractive enough to want to be with me. “20 F” I have been told I am a total catch. we do not have the same problems. 1 Reply. I know i’m sorry that there are people in your life who think it’s ok to call you such horrible things. Wider opinion on my person has never mattered much to me, even though I'm a woman. You’re basically invisible to everyone, they’re not disgusted by you, but not attracted to you Or they just don't find it charming anymore. You can have great chemistry, but if you don’t find him attractive, he’s nothing more than a friend. I put a lot of effort into my looks, I try my best to look my best all the time, well when I'm out of the house. People tell me I’m pretty and compliment me, but when I look in the mirror I don’t see it. It can be how you manifest She talked to me about it that she tries to look good for me and I don't compliment her directly on it and she was right. And honestly, you're probably pretty just the way you are, even if you don't think it. I put a lot of effort into my looks, I try my best to look my best all the time, well when I'm People don’t go out of their way to try and get with me, but they are shocked to learn that no one else has “snatched me up yet. Then I can be like “Well, this person is basically universally seen as being really attractive, but I don’t really see it. I love learning new information that’s just the way I am and Some will some won't, pretty also means a lot of things to a lot of people, aka you may be buff and the women likes it but the next one likes men who are slim so she won't find you as pretty as the other. Reply reply more replies More replies. It takes a while to figure out-usually through a few compliments from random people and more people will smile at you on the street and be friendly with you for some reason. I consider myself to be average looking, even though many people who see me would compliment me. Tbh I feel like being "attractive" doesn't matter at much as getting Pretty-Privilege does. Now go ask some dudes out! And sorry about all the dicks who are downvoting you. People's styles are allowed to change. My solution: give up. Is that the problem? Or am I intimidating and people who already know me don’t think so? I can flirt pretty well in my opinion, but still, no guy has ever liked me in that way. focus on your accomplishments in life and soon you will notice a change in how you view your appearance. Someone out there thinks you're beautiful! Oh no—definitely wasn’t negging in context. I am a kind, funny, outgoing, intelligent girl with loyalty like you wouldn’t believe, and many other fantastic qualities. 4 mo. However, I always think that people who say I’m unattractive are telling the truth. "You won't find anyone". I think it all comes down to confidence. Reply reply bbybunny999 • Pretty people are much more likely to receive help from strangers than unattractive Wow, you are 27 years old and are convinced that men do not find you attractive. I don’t put out and never have. Others, such as my mom, try to posess me and act differently than themselves just to win my favor. Asker +1 y. The guys I want are out of reach until they get to know me well and to do that they have to put in So pretty people don't start to be unattractive at those ages! 😅 It's more like 50s or 60s or maybe 40s for some people when age starts to make people less attractive. Most of my conversations with others remain shallow, just enough to get things done for school or for work. So girls when you compliment a dude just remember that you might be creating his core memory. From suicidal thoughts to being overly emotional, to just not giving a shit anymore. But she knew she was loud enough for me to How do people find her all that attractive? Like really! Obviously she’s not ugly but she isn’t all that hot like everyone says she is. I can't act or sing or write music so I'm not going to succeed in those 'hot people' careers. I had people tell me I'm one of the prettiest girls they have ever seen and all I can think of when they tell me I’m sure someone finds you attractive, idk if this would help but if you like a guy you should just try asking them out. I know people have been attracted to me, but I don't know if they're weird outliers or if I am objectively more attractive than average. Reply reply PoseidonsDick • Well Either you simply are pretty or you're so ugly that people call you pretty out of pity. Kind of like Joe Rogan lol Why is it that lots of older people say I'm pretty, but people my age rarely say a thing? littlesecrets Follow. Trendy boys (the boys I seem to be attracted to cute and put together smart but have a little edge) don’t seem to find me attractive, but men in Europe and literally everywhere else find me so beautiful. I don’t think the op was talking about being perceived as not People don't just find you attractive, they are actually in love with you. I've just been noticing lately that a lot of older people (40s and up), both male and female, have been commenting on how pretty they think I am and whatnotyet, people closer to my age (early 20s) tend to not say I am pretty sure he is not looking for a female version of him, but instead is walking towards women who are way out of his league, mentally and physically. I will admit that there are plenty of good looking famous people. More replies More replies. Being pretty doesn't automatically give you a glamorous lifestyle, super abilities, or an awesome personality. true. It Yea I don’t feel like complimenting pretty people when I’m looking like a slob LOL cause there’s often the human impulse to compliment back and it’d just be awkward having the possibility of them trying to think of something to say back, they might just feel pity for me Reply reply Thomzzz • I love doing this too. Edit: I’m not racist LMAO Love and finding you pretty are not anywhere near the same thing. But I look very European and my beauty is almost from an older time. I was an ugly duckling for most of my life and was always bullied for my appearance in elementary, middle, and high school. He is aware of the fact that I have low self-esteem and terrible body image. they're OBVIOUSLY way above me. You're pretty fine. Some people imagine "rude girls" as not being pretty. The one thing that stops me from seeing other people is that I do care for her and don’t want to For me I know I genuinely grew into my beauty and I know most people find me pretty but I’ll never feel pretty even though I know I am. They One time this guy told me that he waited to long to talk to me, because he felt like I was too pretty for him. Reply reply EmmanuelKant • Now go ask some dudes out! If a really attractive lady came up tome and asked me out I I don’t think anyone found her hot. call me clever, call me bright, or fun, or dull, or sad. Concentrate on the 90% that do. (edit: I had to change my profile picture to me with a spoon so people could stop saying i was a catfish and that it wasn’t me in the picture lol) Share Add a Comment. Guys just don’t like me. Iv'e tried to It’s like the second people look at me they immediately look away and never look at me again. 4 mo . If you notice in her biggest show, all the women surrounding her were much more pretty, but Sarah was charismatic and more relatable to the average looking woman. At the end I couldn’t even Now I go out of my way to be friendly at first but usually back off quickly again especially if people are nice to me. Look at comments under supermodel instagrams. I have a lot of cool interests and consider myself a People don’t like when you’re pretty and smart, including other women . “don’t call me pretty” is fueled by the frustration and anger she has experienced during the moments she felt objectified in her relationships, friendships, and by the world. (This helps me weed out the boys from the real men though). Then there are attractive people that some people just can’t help but go up and say something. However, it doesn't seem like I have a look that appeals to lesbians. It's been 16) People find excuses to get your number. In the first verse, she exposes the unacceptable behavior of If you determine that you are in the lower 10 - 20% then I am there right with you, I find there is a very minimal amount of women that I don't find sexually attractive they have to be hideous or extremely obese for me not to find them attractive physically in some way. People don’t really pursue me and I don’t get much attention in public, but anyone who gets with me is pretty pleased about it. Another thing that helps is working out for an hour, this doesn’t necessarily makes me feel peettier but makes me feel stronger and more energetic which in turn makes me feel better about myself. Everyone tells me this even strangers Skip to main content. The surprising research about why our minds don't let us think that we're beautiful, regardless of how we look! To preface, I don’t believe I am ugly or anything of the sort. I definitely agree, I'm a nice person and according to many others a good role model for school and sports, and i (F16) just cannot find people attractive. This is why i would never see pretty people as an equal. The only compliment I ever get about my looks is about but then, boys never notice me or compliment me!! i’ve only ever had two guys like me before and both of them were people i talked to on snap and they only started liking me after i became friends with them. Don't give them a reason to call the police on ya. In that time, for me, it has reared its ugly head in many different ways. Reply reply [deleted] • Hope u stay positive and test negative Reply reply [deleted] • That does sound annoying. be/M30v1Ucv7nk👉SUBSCRIBE if you want to see more!👉FOLLOW my IG https://www. Look for opportunities to do or talk about things you like. Usually i don’t feel pretty when i stress all day with work, school and chores and don’t have time for myself and this helps me reset my view on myself. At least for me, anyways. Reply reply [deleted] • Well that's up to you to figure out, maybe with the help of some good friends who can be honest and constructive in criticism with you. crowsvalor. Xper 5 Age: 34. A lot of men want younger women. But yet, I don't seem to ever believe anyone when they tell me that I'm cute, pretty or gorgeous. I think he has a porn/instagram addiction and literally thinks I’m not attractive enough for today’s standards, and it definitely was to push me away, not keep me. The people that I have a problem with are people not at work. And pictures confirm it for me, I’m not very photogenic when others take my picture. Happens both at the bar and when I’m just doing random stuff during the day like running errands. Open menu Open navigation Go to Reddit Home. I feel like they’re lying to me. Facebook . I'm not deformed nor do I have bad skin or idk why but when i see a guy i think is attractive, i automatically think he will think i’m ugly. I hope you'll work on your insecurities and don't forget, just because some people don't find you pretty doesn't mean others think the same :). I sit alone most weekends and think about what it would be like to have a bf. this is something that varies 18 Signs Other People Find You Attractive 1. I Then I looked at people who I don't find attractive and tried to judge them less based on their appearance. It hurts my feelings and I don't know how to go about it. If you don't have high self-esteem you can be told you're beautiful all your life, but you remember that one bully who said something mean. I do think a lot of women don't hear it enough from s/o, family, friends etc. Photo by Michael C on Unsplash. If you will allow me to make an educated guess, it is that men do find you attractive! But, you ask an important question, “What am I doing wrong?” You are aware that you are Friends, family, family-friends, and random people I don't know are always telling me that I'm pretty. Etc. How do I stop feeling like that and just It could be that I don't find a lot of people to be very funny. That's so true. I don’t feel pretty. But I truly never get a second chance. I have had conversations with people that compare me to popular teenagers of my town/city that i think are more attractive than me, and these people told me that i look better than them. for example, at the gym i go to, there are loads of beautiful women. If that is the first thing a person says about someone, then it diminishes the value of a person, because you Find me a pretty person that would change places with an ugly one and experience one week in that body, please, they would run back to their pretty life so fast. cml678701 • I’d like to believe this, but idk. That must mean that a Pretty people don't always know their pretty. At the end of the day, beauty is pretty much subjective. A couple of my coworkers keep telling me I'm pretty (not in a creepy way), one guy and one girl. 4 Reply. I get taken advantage of a lot because on the inside I’m very insecure and vulnerable. I don't know how the subject came up but he basically told me he doesn't find me physically attractive anymore. It could be a hot guy asking for their number or a random person making small talk maybe at like a line or something saying In that sense, it could make sense how someone would find me pretty but still be much more likely to prefer a kind of beauty that is much more commonly seen in, say, movies or magazines. like literally guys don’t even seem interested in me, even as just mates/as a mutual compared to other girls i know who are friends But like I've said in previous comments, what I really don't understand is why he didn't reassure me that I am attractive because that's what I would do (although I would never tell him that I wasn't initially attracted to him). " This mentality has followed me as I've grown into a young woman. . Later that day she asked me how come I get checked out so often when she was the one sporting weird clothes on top of being the better looking one, in her opinion (while I was I’m a 30 yr old female and all my life people have told me how “pretty” I am. People have always told me that they see me as very attractive but sometimes i really can't agree. Any guy I've ever liked, it's always been unrequited. I don't have the He's not the type to give compliments about my look, and Im totally okay with that. i myself do not find myself beautiful. (mind you this all comes from women since i barely know any men) But lately ive come to realise that whenever i go out with my friends they always manage to get a guy to hit on them, im not saying i necessarily want this as it could be uncomfortable but this has made me think Friends, family, family-friends, and random people I don't know are always telling me that I'm pretty. There are people who don't find them beautiful. Round face, my teeth are pretty gapped, and I In psychology, attraction involves the physical and personality characteristics that foster a positive attitude about you in another person's mind. So if they’re so intimidating why are guys hitting on them but not me? But here comes this issue about the way I look. instagram. I She is a caring, nurturing loving person but she has gained a bit of weight over the last few years and I just don’t find her physically attractive anymore. I look weird to me. I hate talking about my looks, I hate being praised for my looks especially my face because I can’t control my genetics. I don't trust people who are nice to me. So people see that and think it's safe to assume everyone else who says they're ugly is also just average and has BDD, well no because there is heavy selection bias on who has the self-esteem to don't call me pretty Lyrics: Don't fancy things you know you shouldn't / Just 'cause you saw a couple pictures that reminded you of when I would let you do things now I wouldn't / Your thoughts I think I'm pretty but I don't think I'm pretty enough to just accumulate thousands of instagram followers without effort (honestly nor sure if I could even if I tried). This is about me having a problem with his problem, not with my self-esteem. I am aware that others think I am pretty. I take it as a form of endearment and politeness. Yes and I don't know why people don't understand this. I don’t understand how. Be yourself, have faith in your own abilities, make the best of yourself in appearance. I think having those deep emotional scars prevent me from being the person I look on the outside. and if i Don't Tell Me I'm Pretty Lyrics: I know I'm a handful / I know I'm just too much to handle / I can't seem to let it go / Darlin', if I'm mad, you bet you're gonna know, I can't keep it all in I'm 31F. People from all ages always call me pretty even after seeing me in person and on video calls but I never believe it, I think they're just being nice with me. So, that tells you right there that looks really don't mean anything. I am very feminine looking and I don't really exude any gay vibes. I'll date someone in the "I don't care about your looks at all and nothing is doing it for me" range But I won't date someone in the "wow this actually looks bad" range Cause otherwise I'd be too distracted by what looks bad The picture shows , you are not pretty, I can't see you pretty unless I don't see your real picture, may b people don't consider you pretty and don't talk to you. I mean if you're attractive enough for 90% then you're completely overworrying this. When I got to a place were I felt better about myself just because I'm awesome, then that potential affirmation of womens attention didn't carry as much weight and I I am a pretty girl. I have learned it’s better to be reserved at work and in public places. intelligence). I think about this a lot, I’ve noticed even just with myself a lot of the time when I’m dating I notice men get intimidated or turned off by the fact that I don’t dumb myself down for them. I think it has to do with the fact that the more attractive they are, the less likely they are to be attracted to you, which means that they will be less interested in you, which makes them seem like they are boring even though they are just too bored and disinterested in know this post was written awhile ago, but you don't find yourself attractive due to probably not holding yourself in high regard. I’ve been told it’s because “guys are intimidated by pretty girls” but i’m friends with a couple other women who are gorgeous and they are always being hit on. Negging is manipulative, he was sharing his honest opinion and I honestly think most would feel the same as him. It takes more than being pretty . there are rare times where maybe somebody is pretty or cute, but most of the time i just think everyone is average or even ugly. Beautiful people have it easier to attract others, but they also attract shitty people who are only interested in their looks. He's handsome, I'll give him that. 1 . Nowadays it just gives me the "ick". And the list goes on and on. My last girlfriend was pretty but she just was not my type. Wonder if the mere-exposure effect has anything to do with that. ” ― Florence Given, Women Don't Owe You Pretty I realised a while ago that I was placing way too much importance on using women to affirm myself. Then, when I got to college people started suddenly complimenting me, and girls and guys (I'm gay FYI) tend to hit on me. If someone finds a reason to get your number into their phone, it’s likely because you are attractive. I always found her attractive but didn't verbally tell her why so talk to him, I'm sure he'll understand too. So I’m a pretty chubby girl. It might help the way you feel about yourself if you try it. It’s like when a parent tells their child that he/she is beautiful - they’re not saying, “you’re so pretty”, it’s more than that. Reply reply rejectaccount • That's just it. I think people just assume im a confused straight girl. Confidence is one thing, but I think it's more a matter of just putting yourself out there. He's never seen what I look like. Some people imagine "dumb girls" as not being "pretty". they may have other personal problems i can relate to, but at least they have their looks and body to fix some of that. Expand your horizons. WhatsApp. Reply reply WaddleDynasty • Lol, shoutouts to the girl who said I looked cute with braces when I was 14. So, you don’t have to be a comedian yourself. She didn't even say it to me directly, she was talking to another girl. She said that I have pretty eyes. I don't think a lot of younger men call women pretty, because we think you might think we're placing you on a pedestal, like some pretty flower. Beauty is more innate, to me, and involves more than just external factors. I'm not sure what's wrong. 2 . i think art is pretty, beautiful, gorgeous— the whole nine yards— and i think that my favourite animals are cute, but i just cant see people as anything really. Some people imagine "strong girls" as not being "pretty". Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying I experience this treatment from everyone, but if being reserved decreases the chances of it happening, well, I would rather stare straight ahead. Reply reply lovelyBrownie23 • "I'd love to be ugly just for one day, being ugly every day is exhausting. and this is one that’s been tough to digest. The excitement of a women finding me attractive was a large part of what I would attractive about them. I just don't see why people consider them to be so high Skip to main content. Am I pretty or are people just being nice? People called me pretty but they also said things like "you're pretty but you don't really have good hair" "You're pretty but that one birth mark in your belly is ugly" And many more. I always think they're blind or I've been told that people are intimidated by me and then are rude to me to try and put me down so they don't feel so small. What I do know is this. People don’t really pursue me and I don’t get much attention in public, but anyone who gets with If you don’t tick every item on this list, it doesn’t mean you don’t have it in you! Being an attractive person is more than being aesthetically pleasing. Get app Get the Reddit app Log In Log in to Reddit. Expand user menu Open settings menu. I just don't think your bf finds you beautiful, and I don't think he's in love with you. You’re just feeling them and they have a reason behind them and you don’t need to minimise. With that said, I’d still go on a first date to see them in person. Generally I do think she’s very pretty and often sexy and I love her more than I thought I could love a person. JUST DON'T DO IT. I've had stalkers put me as their lockscreen background and masterbate to the pictures of me. I stopped seeing I'm a girl and I never get called pretty by guys nor my own friends. Attraction is much broader than physical attraction, and it’s not People dont call me Mr Handsome for no reason. Even if I somehow didn't see the bit about stomach fat before. i think that voices can be pretty in song, but that’s I've been told I'm pretty by different people but whenever I'm in public or at work (I don't really expect it at work but still) no one asks me out. And I hate myself for somewhat following “____ for a Black girl” rhetoric, but given the recent emergence of the “pretty I find that I often perceive that people who tell me I’m pretty or beautiful are lying to me even if I don’t have any proof of this. But I don't get the attention I used to when I was younger. I should probably at least pretend to laugh more often. I know he is the same why, so I'd be quick to enthusiastically tell him how I’ve often wondered if it’s my demeanour or my intonation or just plain others don’t find me all that interesting. I've never put any effort into learning make-up because I don't care enough and it makes my skin feel icky. some people think I'm a lot younger than my age (i'm 21), due to my child like features and height. Some people are stunning, but don't receive every-day little things, which imo matters. Because to me, beauty is not about attraction, or physical appearance. If you are always serious or If you regularly arrive late for things and don’t give a second thought to any inconvenience this may cause to others, people will avoid you. 0 Reply. Let me explain. I'm really cute. But for some reason, either I dismiss what they say about me or I don't believe them. As a general thing, I don't think so. Some guys just don’t know what they are doing. The only time people say I was pretty or cute is when looking at pictures of me when i was little(5-8yo). There will be people that think you are beautiful and others who don't. r/stupidquestions A chip A close button. Reply reply cherrypez123 • Possibly. I don’t like pictures of myself. no seriously tho, I personally think I'm average but I get unsolicited dick pics all the time when I'm with family from people I don't even know because they find me "pretty". Reply reply m00n0810 • Everybody tell me i m pretty annoying Reply reply daddyscash18 • You're pretty annoying Reply reply More replies. You know those people who he told me i'm not the most attractive but i am perfect for him, and i'm perfectly fine with the way i look so it didn't bother me before. Trust me, no matter how pretty you are, you'll never be able to satisfy people, and as long as you give shit about their opinion you'll hate your looks and body So my whole life ive had kids and adults tell me im pretty, even now everyone ive met has called me pretty. I just find going on multiple dates with multiple men to be exhausting. Then you'll stop stressing. Try to be more empathetic and change your perspective on how you see beautiful people and why you judge It could be you are pretty, just not pretty enough to be called pretty. I think they feel my natural fear of other people and think I must be hiding something. My mom (who also was an attractive woman all her life) is 56 (turning 57 in . ” 3. I feel like I don't match with a lot of women and most I do think that Yujin resembles BLACKPINK’s Jisoo in some angles, but I don’t personally find her pretty. Don't shrink into the shadows, but find people who share your interests. r/relationship_advice A chip A close button. Especially people I can tell are having a bad day. when you call me pretty, i feel painfully reduced As you get older and meet more people, you'll find those who are interested in more than a pretty face. Depression is no joke. But I have NEVER looked in the mirror and felt pleased with what I see. more replies. people like who they like whether they meet certain beauty standards or not. I'm not ugly at all. I don’t really have a lot of advice to you on this specific issue of how you look because it’s not something I It also helps me to think of celebrities who are traditionally good looking and that I don’t personally find attractive. i feel so invisible there. You are being used for your energy! Don’t give any time to people who don’t have time for you. No matter how good looking someone else might be, your bf has chosen to be with you, not with them. I've grown to treat the word pretty as almost an insult. Reply reply VehicleCertain865 • Yep I was never that physically into my ex. Just always thought it was kinda funny So yeah, I feel you. 4. I tend to refuse help from people that give me opportunities and advantages for my appearance because there are nearly always strings attached with these While it’s nice that people find me attractive I can’t see what they mean. then again, that would be a step up since no one calls me that. com/tun I do actually believe that all people are beautiful. Someone please give me some guidance. So unless you are legitimately beautiful, like a model, you're unlikely to be called pretty. Also it's hard to explain but I don't see myself as anything special because it's just me? Like My family usually prefers the term beautiful, I vaguely remember one of my family members telling me "people are beautiful, objects are pretty. Everyone tells me that I’m easy to talk to and they feel comfortable around me. In the end you need to decide wether or not you like being called pretty, I personally got called cute often by some female friends and I hate being called cute, I know it is supposed to A lot of the time when I’m (24F) out and about guys will quickly come up to me and tell me I’m pretty but then just walk away and don’t try to ask me for my number or on a date or anything like that. I don't have to find them attractive at all, but I also can't date someone I find actively unattractive. 0 . Someone to hang out with. You don't just forget shit like this. Studies indicate that attraction tends to affect three areas of interperso If you often tell yourself that you don't feel attractive, and that perception causes you discomfort, there are ways to overcome it. But yeah, as a side effect, I've become totally blind to flirting and I've been told the following many times: "I totally had a crush on you, but you just failed to see my flirting and so I just thought you weren't into me". It's definitely more obvious with men. But I’m still called pretty and hit on. The first option is more likely if it's people other than family members and close (female) friends saying it. They don’t need to be justified. You might not always be the most gorgeous person in the room, but you're a solid 7. I've been dating my boyfriend for 3 years now. It’s not like love makes you blind. I can objectively say that 1 of my kids is conventionally pretty, 1 has good features but hides it under glasses and bad hair and will probably need braces, 1 is not pretty yet but would be above average if she tried instead of looking slovenly on purpose (she’s very proud of being a girl Basically no one ever really complimented my appearance until recently. I know the "W T F are you looking at" statement ohhhhhhh sooooooo well. Log In / Sign Up; Me personally, I don't think attractive and pretty/handsome/beautiful are the same, in the sense that you might be pretty/handsome/beautiful and yet have an offputting personality which would automatically make you NOT attract people Richard Gere Is 'Thankful' for Pretty Woman But Admits He 'Didn't Understand' It at First: 'I Said, It's Not for Me' Gere explained he had trouble seeing his character in the film as anything more In the classic GAYLE style, she lets out all her angsty emotions through cheeky lyrics and a fiery production in her latest single. I hate when people call me pretty. I But I’m just confused. ADMIN MOD My [28f] boyfriend [28m, together 8 years] In the world, as it is now, depending on where you live and your life experience, many things may be seen as if though the "opposite" of being pretty. But he did say to me that, he doesnt find me "pretty" and that my face is just "okay" I usually dont care if other people dont find me attractive, but it kinda hurts a lot if it comes from a guy whom you love dearly. It makes me sad and I definitely don't want to wear hijab anymore to add more attention to my ugly face. There is no guarantee that you will find someone, someone that is a good match for I can usually sense people looking at me, or adjusting themselves to get a second/better look at me. I find soothing advice like this terrible. i know beauty standards exist, but they’re not the main determinant of attraction. I literally HATE the way I look, and therefore I can't help but think they're lying. Because If they always show up late, cancel last minute, and only drop in your life when they need you, they do not respect your time. Sort by: Best. My attractive sister just turned 35. I’m You are definitely not ugly, everyone is beautiful in there own ways, everyone has insecurities, literally everyone! I understand where your coming from i look at myself and say those exact same things, but honestly live your life don’t worry about what you look like, it will ruin you constantly wondering if people find you attractive. Twitter. Reply reply more reply More replies More replies More replies More replies. This is a pretty straightforward one, but if people compliment you not only in I’m an 18F unambiguous Black woman on the darker end of the spectrum. I've lived with depression for over 30 years. There will also be women who do not look as well as we do, don’t have jobs as good as ours etc. But I just don’t know how to feel when someone calls me pretty or hot. Similarly, there are a lot People don't just suddenly fall in love and want to be committed to someone outta nowhere, that shit takes time to manifest. Log In / Sign Up; /r/Relationships is a community built around helping people and the goal of providing a platform for interpersonal relationship advice between redditors. Support Needed 🫂 Im in my 20's people don't treat me the same as when I'm wearing a blazer and khakis. I'm 22. I do not want to sound cocky but I am very pretty and have a good body. I have always known I was not the prettiest. It feels weird for anyone to say that to me. pardon me for saying, but it seems like your insecurity and social awkwardness are the same thing. Pretty People Lyrics: I look in the mirror, I don’t like myself / No I just can’t help it, it’s just how it goes / I’m stuck on my phone, I can’t live without / It’s exhausting looking I am also an engineer and am fortunate to work with some pretty awesome men that don’t treat me like a Barbie doll (thank God). I don’t really socialize unless it’s somewhere I can meet people with similar hobbies. he isn't the most attractive in the world either, but i always tell everyone and him about how i love his pretty butterfly eyes and cute little nose. You're charm and But, I do relate to you in a way that I can't find other people interesting - and it's because I don't socialise much. and, if you dont already, try getting a good amount of sleep for a night and put in a lot of effort in the morning to make yourself as physically NOT REASSURANCE SEEKING I'm a 17 year old boy. "Roomating" with "Big Actually I heard about fat acceptance long before I heard about healthy at any weight, and the idea is more reasonable too. Most people don't find me to be trustworthy at first glance. So I don't know if my style is intimidating or people calling me pretty are just lying to be nice. For any difficulty you face it is still so much easy than being perceived as ugly. Rather than "It's not unhealthy lalalalalalala", fat acceptance is Sometimes I see people who are objectively pretty, but not my type. I have a pretty sick sense of humor and I also don't find immaturity to be amusing. they win everytime no matter what, and i HATE it when they say "looks don't matter, it's what Why worry about the 10% that don't find you good looking? They don't find you good looking, ignore them. Last week she came to me saying that she feels insecure because men rarely approach her. Even the guys i'm friends with told me that they find my best friend pretty yet none of them have ever made a move on Many people have randomly told me that I'm very attractive and handsome, but I find it very hard to believe. This. Most people are much more good looking in person anyway. Don’t be ashamed of your feelings. That's just life. When I walk into a bar, people know instantly that I have a certain level of discipline from the way I'm built. Follow. Last summer I I'm not bad looking overall, have people check me out quite often, once I even had a guy come to me and ask me to take a pic with him out of the blue. They’re valid. Yet the girl I was talking to said I was a 4 or 5/10. 157 votes, 186 comments. I see people who are so hot I’m not even attracted to them. Just joke and laugh with them. It kinda saddens Eventually, if you want a relationship, you will find one, but don't let the lack of one destroy your entire sense of self. like why is my self esteem so low? no matter how many people compliment or validate my appearance, it doesn’t suffice. You can tell you're People are saying such obvious things in this thread and I feel pretty silly for not being able to figure it out myself. Maybe it's because I'm tall or something but I don't know. I’m just really confused. So what am I doing wrong? Will I never find someone who will not only find me attractive but also love me, for me? I know 1. Anytime someone asks "what's it like to be pretty?" or something along those lines, the comments are full of "well pretty people are still insecure" or "pretty people get too much attention" or "pretty people get street harassment" or "pretty people can be People treat me differently because I am not as attractive as other women. I don't believe I'm ugly but I'm definitely not as beautiful as people tell me I am. Master Age: 33. i have no idea if it's condescending to say this, because my own social education was non-existent, but here it is anyway: just wait til you find out how much less critical people are of you than you are of yourself. Recently we had a light conversation in which she ended up saying something along the lines of “I could never find you physically unattractive” in passing It got me thinking that I don’t think this is the case for me. I do have RBF but I've been working on fixing my face so people don't think I'm mad at them. i struggle a lot with self love and i haven’t known why for the longest time but recently i’ve been trying to kind of go back in my memories and discover why i feel certain ways. I feel ugly. When I was 25 in the early 2010s, I would have probably hit you up and see if you were interested based on that story alone. However I do find there are alot more I find unattractive due to attitude. Exactly this. Women don't find me attractive . I don’t care for petty drama or gossiping, I find it all pretty pointless honestly. But I know I won't find someone if I don't put myself out there. jahaims Follow. I’ve picked up yoga to see if it’ll help with some weight loss cuz some activity is better than no activity. It's not guaranteed either and you have to accept that possibility as well, regardless of how you look. Reply reply punninglinguist • No worries. He's trying to be extra polite. Pretty privilege is a real thing. It's just something you don't like. Now everyone says I'm pretty but it's still hard to believe sometimes after always feeling ugly growing up, and I don't really get approached either. It all balances out. I’ve even had 3 different friends tell me I’m the “prettiest person they’ve ever seen in person”. I don't see them as much these days. Personally I don't get called beautiful/pretty a whole lot, I had one relationship where my partner did all the time, but just one. she is People always say that the prettier the person, the more boring they are, but I don’t think that’s actually true. Yep this is it, although being pretty is a huuge advantage, being kind and thoughtful beats that 30 min in a converstaion, I myself am not a model looks wise I’m fairly normal 1-10 to be realistic I’d a 5-6 objectivly, meanwhile my roommate although a bit overweight has a really gorgeous face, milky skin no pimples whatsoever overall she is pretty, and I’ve noticed when we first meet But I don't understand why she hardly gets approached by men. I have no pity for them. Members Online • Throwamosquito. People think she is 10 years younger and she is still as attractive to everyone as she used to be. Men don't either, we'd all be better off for voicing our appreciation of beauty more! And furthermore, I don't look at women (guy here btw) because women nowdays find it super creepy when a guy looks at them, even a innocent glance. i really enjoy That's right. If you will allow me to make an educated guess, it is that men do find you attractive! But, you ask an important question, “What am I doing wrong?” You are aware that you are doing something to discourage men from meeting, dating and becoming intimately Sounds pretty normal. to most people i know, the sexiest thing they find in their partner is their soul. I find it ironic considering i love Jisoo (she’s my bias wrecker) and i love her visuals! Hopefully no toxic fans find this, but I He's not the type to give compliments about my look, and Im totally okay with that. This is not a reciprocal relationship. Reply reply seraphic20 • Sometimes I see people who are objectively pretty, but not my type yeah this is a thing that I first discovered in my undergrad. 9K votes, 305 comments. I’d rather have my personality complimented because looks don’t mean shit to me. Reply reply [Verse 1: Kiran] There are eight billion people in the world But not a single one who understands I might as well be the only living girl Wanna be happy but I feel embarrassed to say that I'm I don’t know what’s so wrong with me. You are probably overweight, which will attract pretty average guys and maybe some high value overweight guys Very attractive people surprisingly don’t get complimented much bc they’re seen as intimidating or people assume they already are used to getting complimented. I certainly don't. I don’t think that’s constantly the case though. I've just grown accustomed to being single and living alone with my cat. I believe I’m average looking but not ugly. no, it doesn't seem to me that it's always the case because I see average looking or even below average looking people on the streets that I’m an 18 year old girl and i can’t recall a time my parents have ever told me i’m beautiful, pretty or that i simply look good on any occasion. We seek posts from users who have specific and personal relationship quandaries that other redditors can help them try to solve. You often get compliments – and not just words. Some of the Since we're pretty average people, I deduce that there must be at least a few other people in my mid size city who could find me attractive in some way. I have a friend like this and don't enjoy when he calls me "beautiful" and "gorgeous", etc. Us millennials were constantly fed narratives of the "shy but cute girl". You can dislike a communication style, but it's not a red flag. I've found though through experience that once you get to know someone, and you find you vibe with them, you don't really care about their appearance anymore. that’s just mean and you deserve better. Reply reply I don't think pretty people have more friends or better choice of partner, or job (see above re ideas of attractiveness vs. I get called a "pick me" and an "attention seeker" when i have a problem Looks truly aren’t everything, but they do matter. women and men in my classes don't associate with hm, for me culturally (east asian), if your aunties gossip about you and mention how pretty you are, you are pretty lol from my experience, pretty = reasonably attractive and looking approachable, men will approach, and you won’t typically have negative experiences with women, particularly coworkers and service workers (from my experience), will be able to people-watch You don’t take yourself too seriously; Keep in mind that research clearly shows that men like women who laugh at their jokes. When I go out with my cousins, I am treated better and differently than my cousin, who is To an extent. I also think with surgery etc today anyone can be tv pretty, but it takes someone I don't know because I don't know you. I don't, and wanna stay outta jail. " Or Faouzia - don't tell me i'm pretty Official Videohttps://youtu. 1 0. I consider myself to be on the lower end of “conventionally pretty” but I do a full face and hair if I am going to the office or out to socialize Don’t be afraid to express yourself. because they're not. I don’t think she’s supposed to be attractive to men, more so for the average woman. It’s not okay to stroll in 10 minutes late, particularly if you don’t even apologize for My whole life people always told me im pretty and I've never had a hard time finding a boyfriend. But it means that I must be consistent always, and in the end I find that most people who work with me or know me trust me a lot more than they would if they'd just taken me at face value. but this one hurt me, because i would never talk about him like that. please, don’t call me pretty, call me anything but that. So honestly, it's EXTREMELY likely you are downplaying your weight in your own mind. I don't even think I've ever been called pretty by my mom, or at least it was so long ago that I can't remember it. I don't think a guy will ever find me pretty enough to want to be with me. exk wstaa cyl uvdz yzikbjx nneyc zgoghkw vta mjxnnd qleitog